18 Ways To Start Living, Not Just Existing

I once had a conversation with someone in which I admitted to them that I spent an hour meditating on the floor to get ready for work in the context of, “yeah, I know, I’m crazy.” Their response? “You know what’s crazy? Sitting at a desk 9-5 for your entire life. That’s crazy.”


1. Stop living within proximity. Travel to another state to see your favorite author speak, don’t let distance stop you from buying tickets to seeing the band you love, don’t write off relationships because they may have to be long-distance for a bit and research the natural wonders of the parts of your city and state that you don’t frequent, and make it a point to go see them.

2. Stop being okay with unanswered questions. Seek what you want to find. Question until you understand. Dig until you find your purpose. Experiment until you find your passion. Reach out for the relationship you want. There’s nothing we cannot have the answers to — we may not understand them, or unearth them easily, but they’re there nonetheless.

3. Do what you want and say no to what you don’t. There is something so liberating in the simple act of stepping off the conveyor belt. You don’t have to be rude, but you have to be honest. You either spend your every hour at the whim of other people’s expectations or you start living how you really want to.

4. Stop half-assing out of fear of being misunderstood. Stop depreciating your intelligence or toning down your quirks because other people may scoff and judge out of their own insecurities or close-mindedness.

5. Eat what you freaking want.

6. Stop “vacationing” and start exploring.

7. Rekindle the art of joy in simplicity for multi-course meals that you prepared and the simple companionship of friends to share them with. See these aspects of your life as more than just routine for survival, but rather as celebrating the act of sharing.

8. Find joy in things that aren’t just extrinsically rewarding. Your boss’ nod of approval isn’t the only thing worth living for. Find the things that you would give your own nod of approval for. Pursue them. The more you do this, the less anxiety you’ll have about going out and being a person, not just an employee.

9. Make an obligation to yourself to start scheduling your “you” time just as essentially as you do everything else. Set aside time to do nothing, to do anything, to do whatever it is you most want to but otherwise don’t prioritize like you should.

10. Understand that your life unfolds as your mind perceives it. Cultivate an internal locus of control. Stop existing at the whim of other people, of tragedy, of uncertainty. Develop your personal dogma and embrace it, let it guide you.

11. Tie your loose ends and seek help if you need it. Don’t undervalue the importance of taking time to heal, to grieve, to find closure. This isn’t about wallowing some more, this is about acknowledging that your brokenness is not a defect, it’s an element of being human, and it deserves your attention, not your judgment.

12. Logistically and responsibly craft a game plan if you realize there’s no finding even a semblance of joy or contentment with whatever it is you’re doing. Throw away the idea of “success” you adopted from whatever mindset you were predisposed to. A 9-5 isn’t the only route to success — far from it, in fact.

13. Be honest with people. Be brutally, openly, wildly honest. There’s an unprecedented kind of connectedness you get when you turn to someone and admit that you’re struggling just like they are — the human condition is far less of a burden when you finally realize you’re not alone.

14. Switch from auto-assuming you’re in the wrong and are imposing your incorrect will on others to believing that you deserve to have and do what you want.

15. Meditate on the temporary nature of things. The second you take things a little less seriously, the second you stop refraining out of fear. This is just a ride, and nothing will matter at the end of the day other than what you got from it and how much of that you brought to others.

16. Get out of your own head. Learn to compartmentalize your thoughts. It may not happen naturally at first, but realize that there have to be shifts from work-mode to life-mode to love-mode to sister-mode to whatever-mode-you-fall-into-that-day. Stop trying to squeeze yourself into one truth at a time.

17. Take your lunch hour. It seems like an obvious, simple task, but as anybody can tell you: few people actually take the whole hour to relax and recoup and enjoy themselves. So take it, starting today. Take the whole damn thing. Leave the building. When it gets warmer, walk to a park and lay on the grass for 20 minutes. Treat a co-worker, have a drink (if your office culture allows this).

18. Cut your hair. Delete the digital presence and drift from the physical presence of those who do not serve you. Stop letting the assumptions you have about other people’s judgments of you control your life. Stop believing you’re only as good as someone else believes you are, and start having reckless, blind faith in the fact that most things unfold just exactly as we know they will, the only parts of life that shock us are the things we thought we weren’t good enough to receive.

(Source: thoughtcatalog.com)

Emgeee

Emergerd.. May bago akoong krassssss. Emigash. Si koyang nakasabay ko sa bus kanina, is not only a gentleman, but oh so gwapo pa, with matching buff physique. Huhu.

You can rip him off (no not his clothes, Haha.) of his beautiful eyes and thinly lips and disheveled slightly curly hair and arms that seem so strong and a face like Jesus (haha. Seriously), he will still stand out for me. Hihi. Coz a man giving his seat to women is RARE… That in its rarity I’ve stopped believing that such man still exist. Haha. Ok I’m exaggerating.. Haha. And im actually considering the possibility that he’s gay.. Haha. Pero wapakels. Krasss ko pa rin si koyaaaa. Hahaha!

Nasa harap na harap kami, I’m seated at the back of the driver’s and most of the time eh nakatalikod siya sakin at ang nakikita ko lang ay ang likod nyang ang sarap I-hug. (Bwahahaha.) at habang nanunuod ako ng mega clear copy ng Snow White and the Huntsmen, at habang inaadmire ang kagandahan ni Charlize Theron, eh napansin kong kita pala ang feslak ni krass sa rearview mirror. Hihihi! So nag alternate na lang ako ng tingin sa kanilang dalawa. Mwehehe :))))

Omg. A goodnight indeed. Hahaha!

thediaryofayounglady asked: 30 and 35! :D

30. Have a crush on anyone at the moment?
—- Yung boses ni Christina Grimmie. HAHAHAHA :D

35. Favourite place to travel?
—- Philippines. Haha. If I were to go back to place/s I’ve been before, they’d be: Bohol and Palawan. :) Nature’s Grandeur at its finest :)

CHAKABELLS. Yung totoo, anong graph yaaan. HAHAHAHA! jusmiyo, pivot analysis na lang please? wag ganitoooo,

CHAKABELLS. Yung totoo, anong graph yaaan. HAHAHAHA! jusmiyo, pivot analysis na lang please? wag ganitoooo,

Interesting questions worth answering.

  • 1. Current mood?
  • 2. If you could meet any celebrity, who would it be and why?
  • 3. You win a million dollars, what is the first thing you spend it on?
  • 4. Favourite song or songs at the moment?
  • 5. What are you wearing right now?
  • 6. Least favourite singer?
  • 7. One thing you're craving right now
  • 8. Last movie you watched?
  • 9. Favourite quote?
  • 10. Have any piercings? If so, where?
  • 11. Biggest pet peeve?
  • 12. One electronic item you can't live without?
  • 13. Favourite music genre?
  • 14. Play any sports? If so, what sports
  • 15. Best birthday present ever received
  • 16. Scariest moment of your life
  • 17.Earliest memory?
  • 18. Missing anyone at the moment?
  • 19. What do you look for in the opposite sex?
  • 20. Favourite song lyrics?
  • 21. One food that you could eat every day, and never get tired of
  • 22. If you could be any animal, which animal would you be?
  • 23. Favourite holiday?
  • 24. Do you like the place you live in?
  • 25. What kind of computer do you have?
  • 26. Ever had you heart broken?
  • 27.How did you discover tumblr?
  • 28. Do you get jealous easily?
  • 29. One thing you wish you could change about yourself
  • 30. Have a crush on anyone at the moment?
  • 31. Biggest fear?
  • 32. What is the current time where you are?
  • 33. One thing you like about yourself
  • 34. Something you wish to accomplish within the next year?
  • 35. Favourite place to travel?
  • 36. Someone who is very important to you
  • 37.Favourite scent?
  • 38.Ever been to any concerts? If so, how many, and which was your favourite?
  • 39. One thing you want to say to someone right now, but can't or aren't brave enough to
  • 40. Put your itunes on shuffle. List the first 5 songs that come on
sketchlibrarian:

Sketch-a-quote. Tiny cute penguino.

sketchlibrarian:

Sketch-a-quote. Tiny cute penguino.

I didn’t realized I can actually survive a day with ONLY a:

1. Cup of Brewed Coffee
2. Ham Spread Sandwich
3. Another cup of Hot Milo
4. A Cheese Pimiento Sandwich
5. A bottle of Coke

Running in my stomach. Now that’s lotsa caffeine in my system right?. Im really starting to count stars @_@ UBEER BUSY DAY. I’m FAMISH.

When at the end of a totally tiring day, you find this kind of convo in your inbox— you’ll say to yerself: ah! I’m blessed.

I’m always the taga-tawa sa mga kalokohan nila. Forevs.

I was ransacking your FB a while ago to copy the dp u had a few weeks back for the sole purpose of making this post appear like I put an effort on it. Wahaha. But apparently, (I was surprised actually) FB creates a folder of people tagged in photos together.. and voila! I found these ancient pics instead. Hahaha! There were about 90 something pics there (event posters and maps included.. Haha. Yes, youthhead days mostly. Nostalgic album.) Pero syempre pinili ko yung pic kung san maganda ko. Hahaha. Charot. Este, kung saan pala ako/tayo mukhang tao. Haha. :D

Look at that last photo— the date said it was taken way back in 2010. 4years forward and tada—- medschool happened.. And you’re graduating tomorrow!!! Ambiliiiiiiis ng panahon. And am so ultramega proud of you! Lechugas talagang braincells meron ka. Huhu. Why so galing.. :)

But more than your mental prowess, I admire you for being an epitome of excellence.. In almost all areas of your life. I need not explain the academic side. Kk. Haha. And oh— anyway yung emeritus something pala in yer final revalida na kinwento mo… Actually I dunno what it stands for-pero since it’s an honor and it is in Latin so that must be good— Very gooood! (and it’s something I’ll mention coz I’ve never been more proud! And how you’ve always been a beri good son to yer parents and a hands-on kuya to Gerard..wala akong masabi. :) add to that that despite medschool’s heavy load eh nagawa mo pang mag head ng CornerStone.. At sumali sa lahat na ata ng ministry na meron sa SFC. Sumayaw (pati musicmin—haha..di mo pinalpas) played sports.. At saka di ko na ata alam yung iba. Haha. You’ve also been a HH head. Whew. Grabe lang :)

So there. Haaaaappy graduation Parts! Enjoy your day tomorrow! You more than deserve it. :)

Ps. Err. Angghiraaap mo regaluhan. Hahaha. Sana keri na yung naisip ko. Bigay ko na lang kung kelan tayo palaring magkita. ;)

Lablats,
Jera

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Tonight’s playlist while running:

** Grateful
** Larger than Life
** Embrace
** For You Almighty
** Spirit is Strong
** With You
** Nothing Can Stop
** Freedom
** All for You

All by LiveLoud Band, in house youth band of YFC.

Ah I missss the feeling. I instantly felt lighter. And after 2 lapses, my heart felt like it might burn.. I stopped and walked instead and I took refuge on a swing. I push myself to go upward.. And up I went. My nerves one by one started to calm down.. The worship songs still playing in the background. Then the wind started to cool and begin slapping my face. And I felt like a child in a Father’s embrace.. I wanted to fall asleep.. I’ve never been that calm and light and zoned out for quite sometime now. And I wanted to hold on to that feeling as long as I could. I almost wish to cry.. I almost did. I stayed that way for three or four songs. I needed to wake up from my “power nap” coz I have company. And it’s not like I can spend the entire night in the park.

I ran another round and headed to go home.